Brains stretch, not snap.

Sometimes when things get hard, it can feel like your brain might break — like a stick that snaps if you bend it too far. But brains don’t snap; they stretch. As your teacher, I see every day how kids try, wobble, and then try again. That wobble is practice. When you learn a new trick on the playground or figure out a math problem that once felt impossible, your brain has stretched a little bit and made new paths. That doesn’t mean it’s easy or that you won’t feel upset, frustrated, or tired. Big feelings are part of learning. They tell us when something matters and when we need to slow down, ask for help, or use a different way of trying. Saying short, simple things to yourself can change how you feel in the moment and remind you that growing is happening, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Here are some short phrases you can say to yourself or a friend when things get tough — they’re small, but they work like a gentle coach in your head: - “Brains stretch, not snap.” “I can try again.” “This feeling will pass.” “Mistakes mean I’m learning.” “Breathe in, breathe out.” “I can ask for help.” “One small step at a time.”

You can use these phrases out loud, whisper them, or write them on a sticky note and put it in your desk. Try pairing a phrase with something you do: take three deep breaths with “Breathe in, breathe out,” or take one tiny step toward a task with “One small step at a time.” It helps to name your feeling first — saying “I’m angry” or “I’m worried” makes the feeling less loud inside you. If you’re stuck, tell a grown-up you trust: say “Can you help me?” or “I need a minute.” It’s brave to ask for help. Remember, everyone learns at different speeds; comparing yourself to others takes energy away from stretching your own brain. Celebrate the small wins — finishing one paragraph, tying your shoe faster, waiting your turn — because those small wins mean your brain is getting a bit stronger. If a day feels extra heavy, it’s okay to take a break, breathe, and come back later. Brains grow with practice, rest, and kindness, especially kindness to yourself. I believe in the stretch — and so should you.