From Parents

We want you to hear some things from us that you can carry with you when days feel heavy. Sometimes words from the people who love you most are like a small light in the dark — short, true, and steady. We don’t always have the perfect answers, and we’re not experts, but we can give you honest, caring words that help you feel seen, safe, and stronger.

Here are some simple things we might say and why they matter: - “I’m proud of how hard you tried.” (Puts value on effort more than outcome.) - “It’s okay to feel upset.” (Gives permission for feelings instead of pushing them away.) - “You are not the only one who messes up.” (Normalizes mistakes.) - “We will figure this out together.” (Shows you don’t have to carry problems alone.) - “Take your time.” (Reminds you it’s okay to go at your own pace.) - “I believe you.” (Builds trust and confidence.) - “What do you need from me right now?” (Respects your voice and choices.) - “You are enough, just as you are.” (Supports self-worth without conditions.)

When we say these things, we mean them with caring and attention. A short phrase can change how you think about a situation — it can take away the isolation and turn a stormy moment into something manageable. For a child, hearing “it’s okay to be scared” lets you name the feeling instead of hiding it. Hearing “we’ll figure this out” turns a problem into a team challenge. Hearing “I believe you” helps you trust yourself and the people around you.

Words are strongest when they come with actions. When we promise to figure something out together, we will sit with you, help you make a step-by-step plan, or simply hold your hand while you cry. When we tell you “take your time,” we really mean we won’t rush you to feel better. And when we say “what do you need?” we will listen and try to give what you ask for — maybe a hug, maybe space, maybe help with homework, or someone to practice with.

You might also use some of these phrases with your friends. Saying “it’s okay” or “I’m proud of you” to someone else gives them permission to breathe and keeps friendship kind. If you ever feel unsure about a big feeling, remember it’s fine to tell us, and if we don’t get it right the first time, you can tell us again. We want to learn how to help you best.

We love you, and our words are meant to remind you of that every day. If you want, keep a small list of these phrases where you can see them — on a bedroom door, a notebook, or your phone — so you can read them when your heart needs a steady voice.