Helping counts as homework.

I want to tell you something simple that you can carry like a little tool in your pocket: helping counts as homework. When things feel heavy—when you’re worried about a friend, when a chore seems impossible, when the world feels too big—I want you to remember a few short sentences that actually change how you feel and what you do. These are not magic fixes, but they steady you. They help you notice your feelings, act kindly, and learn from mistakes without being too hard on yourself. I say them to you because I’ve watched them work. I say them because learning to help others and yourself is as important as math practice or spelling drills.

Here are some short phrases you can try when times are tough. You can say them to yourself, to a friend, or let someone say them to you: - “I’m here.” / “You’re not alone.” - “It’s okay to feel this.” / “Feelings are not forever.” - “We’ll try one small step.” / “What one thing can I do right now?” - “I made a mistake; I can learn from it.” / “Nobody is perfect.” - “Thank you.” / “I see you.” - “Can I help?” / “Will you tell me more?” - “Let’s take a break.” / “Breathe with me.”

Short phrases like these do two big things: they name what’s happening, and they point to a next step. For example, saying “I’m here” tells someone they don’t have to carry everything alone. Saying “We’ll try one small step” turns a huge problem into something you can touch and try. When you use these phrases often, you’re practicing a habit—like practicing a sport or an instrument. Helping someone tidy up, listening when a friend is sad, or choosing to be kind when someone is mean are all forms of homework that build your heart and your courage.

You don’t need to be perfect. Sometimes the best help is just showing up. If you’re scared to say something, try, “I don’t know what to say, but I care.” If you’re the one who’s hurting, practice a gentle phrase to yourself like, “This is hard, and I can get through it.” When you offer help, let the person decide how much they want. Ask, “Do you want company, or space?” That respects both you and them.

Over time you’ll notice a change: small acts of help will make you feel stronger and more connected. They won’t erase problems instantly, but they’ll make the days lighter and teach you how to be a friend to others and to yourself. So remember: helping counts as homework. Keep these phrases in your pocket, use them, and watch how much you and the people around you grow.