Pitch ideas, not excuses.

Hey there — let’s talk about a powerful habit that can make hard days feel a little lighter and help you grow stronger.

Pitch ideas, not excuses. When something goes wrong — a test you didn’t study for, a fight with a friend, a project that’s late — it’s easy to reach for an excuse. Excuses feel safe because they explain why nothing needs to change. But pitching an idea is different: it’s a small, brave step toward fixing the problem. As your mentor, I’ve seen kids your age turn worries into wins simply by changing the words they use. Words shape what we do next. Saying “I can’t” or “It’s not my fault” usually ends the story there. Saying “Here’s one thing I can try” keeps the story going.

Here are a few simple phrases you can use right away — short sentences that lead to action: - “I made a mistake, but I can try a different way.” “Can we do this together?” “I don’t know yet, but I’ll learn.” “Let’s break it into steps.” “If this didn’t work, what will I try next?”

Using these lines can do three big things for you. First, they help you feel calmer because they move your brain from blaming to solving. Second, they show others you are responsible, which builds trust with friends, teachers, and family. Third, they build confidence: each small idea you try becomes proof you can handle more next time. You don’t need huge plans. Tiny ideas — asking a question, practicing for five minutes, saying sorry and trying again — add up.

Put this into practice with simple plans. If a homework assignment feels huge, say one of the phrases and then pick one small step: read one paragraph, ask a friend for notes, or email your teacher. If you had an argument, pitch an idea like “Can we talk after lunch?” or “I’m sorry — can we try doing X next time?” If you’re nervous about trying out for a team, say “I’ll practice three days this week” instead of “I can’t compete.” Write your favorite phrase on a sticky note, practice it in front of a mirror, or say it to a friend who will remind you to be brave.

Remember, pitching ideas doesn’t mean you’ll always succeed — and that’s okay. It means you choose to try something useful instead of stopping at blame. Every idea you pitch, even the small silly ones, teaches you how to think better and handle more. I believe in the small steps you’ll take. Start with one idea today, and watch how the excuses begin to fade.