Goals need dates.

Have you ever said, “I’ll do it someday,” and then realized that “someday” never arrived? I have, and so have lots of kids I work with. Goals need dates because a date turns a wish into a plan. When you pick a day—like “I’ll finish my science project by Friday” or “I’ll learn five piano pieces by the end of the month”—your brain starts to notice steps, time, and what you can do today. A date gives your plan a shape. It tells your calendar, your family, and most importantly, you, that this thing matters enough to make time for it.

Choosing a date doesn’t mean everything must be perfect. It means you’re making a promise to try. The trick is to make dates real: not too far away (so you don’t forget) and not so close that you panic. Break big goals into smaller pieces and give each piece its own date. If you want to read a whole book, set a date for chapters, like “two chapters every three days.” If you want to save money for a game, decide how much to save each week and when you’ll check the total. When goals are smaller and dated, they feel easier and you get to celebrate more often.

Here’s a simple way to set a dated goal that actually works: - Name the goal, choose a realistic date, list the small steps with their own dates, and pick a reward for when you meet the main date.

Once you’ve picked dates, use tools that fit you. Put the deadline on a calendar you look at, set a phone reminder, or stick a note on your mirror. Tell a friend, parent, or coach the date so they can cheer you on or remind you gently. Sharing your date makes it real because other people become part of the plan. If you like drawing, make a progress chart with stickers. If you like music, make a playlist you only listen to while working toward the goal. Small, fun rituals help you stick to dates without feeling bored.

Sometimes life gets messy. Maybe you get sick, feel sad, or something unexpected happens and you miss a date. That’s okay. Dates are guides, not punishments. If you miss one, look back with curiosity: what slowed you down? Was the date too tight? Were the steps unclear? Reset the date, change the steps, and try again. Be kind to yourself—every attempt teaches you something and builds your confidence.

Goals with dates help you move from “I wish” to “I did.” They make big things feel possible and scary things manageable. Start small, pick a date, and notice how your days begin to add up. I’ll be cheering for you as you set your next date and take the next step.