Sweat in practice, shine on game day.

I’m your coach, and I’ve seen how a few simple words at the right moment can change a player’s whole day — and a kid’s whole outlook. “Sweat in practice, shine on game day” isn’t just about drills and conditioning. It’s about learning how to face hard things, practicing how to feel brave, and saving your sparkle for when you need it most. When you learn to try, stumble, get up, and try again in practice, the big moments don’t feel so scary. The same idea works for school, friendships, and when life throws you a curveball. Small reminders help you keep going, calm your nerves, and remember that you belong in the game no matter what.

As a coach I don’t solve everything for you. What I do is offer short, honest phrases that help you name what’s happening inside and take a next step. Saying “It’s okay to be nervous” lets a kid know feelings are normal. Saying “One play at a time” brings attention back to now, not a future mistake. These lines aren’t magic, but they’re tools — like stretching before sprints. Use them often so they become habits. Say them with warmth, not like a lecture. Listen first. If a teammate is quiet, a gentle “I’ve got your back” can open the door to talk. If someone is frustrated, “What can we try next?” helps turn a wall into a plan. The goal is to build confidence, teach problem-solving, and give kids the language to express themselves when things get tough.

Here are short phrases you can use on the field, before a test, or during a rough day: - “One step at a time.”
- “Mistakes help us learn.”
- “Breathe. You can do this.”
- “You belong here.”
- “Try your best — that’s enough.”
- “Let’s make a plan together.”
- “I believe in you.”
- “It’s okay to ask for help.”

When you choose a phrase, make it your rhythm. Repeat it quietly when someone is nervous, cheer it when someone succeeds, and say it when someone needs encouragement. Phrases work best when they match the moment: short and steady for nerves, warm and proud after effort, curious and calm when a child is upset. Practice using them with teammates — the more you hear supportive words, the more you begin to say them to yourself.

Remember, practicing emotional skills takes time just like learning a new play. There will be days you feel small or fail at something, and that’s part of getting stronger. Keep showing up. Keep saying the helpful things. Keep believing that practice builds courage. I’m not a doctor or a therapist — I’m your coach, cheering every step. Sweat in practice, and when game day — or a hard moment — comes, you’ll be ready to shine.